How to tackle relationship problems

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Relationship problems
Rowing all the time? Or maybe you've just stopped talking altogether? Every relationship goes through bad patches, but no matter how grim it feels right now there's plenty you can do to get it back on track.

Agony aunt Kate Corr looks at the main reasons your relationship could be at breaking point and talks to Relate to give you expert advice on how to help you sort it out...

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The problems

- An affair
- Money problems
- Miscarriage
- Gone off sex
- Drifting apart

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alan mark oakland

I need help I dont know what to do .... my name is alan . I met a girl and got talking to her over 4 weeks on media site and it was coming up to valantines day . she has her own company so i went on web to find her address to send her flowers to say that i care for her . WE later talked that day and she went off at me saying i was creepy and not nice that i had got her address the way i did , we have not spoke or seen each other since . I really really like her and would love to get back with her but i don't know what to do .i have wrote her a letter explaining why i did what i did and that i want to have her in my life to know her ... help please i don't know what to do .......


Your honest answer please? if for some reasons you get married to a really good and kind man, and later about a year time the whole sex, communication and what lovers do are not happening due to age difference. Now you are left with hard decisions to make with your Ex in the picture who is wanting you back even though he is not as kind and good as the one you are married to. what will you do or suggest? .

Leonids Balodis

After reading BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com about Metodo helping her cast a spell to fix her relationship, i was hmm.. will say considering doing the same thing cos my life was a total mess.On one hand my girlfriend now soon to be fiancé parent did not want me to be their son-in-law cos i did not belong to the upper class community and on the other hand, i moved from Latvia where my life and job was to be with my soon to be fiancé in Azerbaijan.I had no home there but just the apartment we both bought together.If am not mistaking her father is a famous lawyer to almost every rich person in Azerbaijan. She was going to help me get a job in her father law firm before she broke up with me because she was going to marry one of her father client.All this was before i contacted Metodo to see what he could for me.As i said her father was against our relationship and she was going to marry a 53 years old man for his money.She has always loved materials things but i never thought she would pick money over me.We were still see each other not as lover but secret lovers.I loved her too much to be sharing with a disgusting old man because he was rich.I don't mean to disrespect any elderly person i just don't like it when rich old or young persons try to take or take someone you hold dearly to your heart cos they have the money to do so.In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength.She didn't want to marry me but she wanted to be my lover in secret.I knew she loved me dearly but she was also in love with all the money and assets the man had.she knew i was content with what i had and what she had but she wanted to be so rich like adding riches ti what she already had.The date of the wedding was already set when i realized that if i don't do something to stop the wedding i would lost her forever.It happened that i came across BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com as i search the INTERNET on how to make a woman realize living without you will be a great mistake where she wrote how metodo the spell caster helped her fix her marriage and how she came face to face in contact with Metodo and also how real and awesome he is.I just felt compelled to also contact him for help maybe i was not thinking clearly or i felt it was my only chance to make sure she soon to be fiancé doesn't marry anyone else but me or maybe i felt both ways.I know something was clear to me that whatever action i took was my last chance to win her back.There and then i contacted Metodo cos i had no money to travel all the way to Chad.I just trusted BRUNELDA NATO testimony that he really exist and can help me solve my problem.It turned out that BRUNELDA NATO was right.Now i can also truthfully tell you that Metodo is really something out of ordinary he is the greatest spell caster you can ever meet.He sent me some items that he told me to use to pray with within the 7 days he was casting the spell i asked him to help me cast with the materials he told me to provide to for the spell casting.Within those seven days of incantation pray my soon to be fiancé developed something i don't know what to call in her head that made the love she had for me resurface i say resurface love because she became that girl i fell in love with back in Latvia she told me she was going to call of the wedding but was scared what would happen to her father relationship with the man.But all those worried faded when Metodo sent the spell that looked like a powdery substances with instruction on how to make it effective.She called off the wedding and nothing happened it was like no one cared anymore not the man or her parent almost like it idea was yipped of their head.Whether anyone believe me or not it does really matter the only thing i care to say here is that Metodo is the ultimate spell caster anyone can ever ask for help.Am going to leave his mail in case Metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

Nadezhda Vyacheslav

I have been reading about spell casting and its powers for a while but i never thought or it never occurred to me or i rather say that it happened that i never got myself in any situation that will make need the help of a spell caster.I read a lot of testimony on the internet on web pages, blog, and some on the Facebook page of some web site i linked with my Facebook with.I was more concerned about a certain spell caster MUTTON OSUN. That his name kept appearing on almost every comment form different individual claiming he has helped them a great deal in spell casting of all kind but mostly relationship problem that is from divorced man and women to lost love and cheating wife and husband was like don't even know the word to use.All of them had just one thing in common that he help then resolved their problem that even therapist could not solve i guess the problem was passed the place where talking was not doing any good at all.But some how i believed them and their story cos the testimony were just too real and were from different people.I just enjoyed reading how he help those people and asking myself how possible it was that this spell caster could do all this with no effect of what so ever.Year they said his spell had no negative effect on the person who asked the spell to be casted and the person the spell is casted upon.I just wanted to know how it worked so i tried it and now i am among those writing this to tell those like me reading that this MUTTON guy is real.I am a single 32 years old mom of two two girls.I have always had a thing for this guy or i would say i liked this guy but he was kind of a mess cos of the lost of his wife.Like he had nothing to leave for any more.He never came out of this house and even went he did he doesn't talk to anybody even i tried ti make a conversation he just smile so he doesn't look cruel and then walk away.At night you can hear him breaking things and sobbing.I wouldn't say i knew what he was feeling cos really i didn't know but i knew i could make him happy again but no matter how i tried to get close he shuts me out.I really liked him and hated to see him miserable i mean he still have a chance to be happy with me.Contacting MUTTON OSUN was really easy for me cos all those other article had an email address i could use to contact him.So i send him an email to him but i didn't get a responses immediately i mean it took three day before i saw his mail in response to my mail where he told me that he could help me make the guy to love.Am sorry i can mention my name or his cos i really don't know who is writing this thing i am writing.Any way i was not allowed to tell any one till i have seen the result and important he told me i needed some materials for the spell casting.Most people tend to thinking his asking you to pay for the spell but not you have the choice to buy these materials and send them to him or you can ask that he get them for you if you can get the materials or the cost of buy and ship them to him is to much.In my case i gave him money to get the materials cos it was way less expansive.I guess he made some kind of harmless powdery substance with those materials and sent them over to me.He asked that i follow this instructions on how to make the spell active which i did.I must warn you it take at least two day to be effective cos it was after two days the man that never talks to me knocked at my door asking if i would like to watch movies with him at his place form there we kicked off.We have been together for 4 months now and still counting he is a really nice man i can am the luckiest woman in the world.I mean this only means that what MUTTON did is working and it changed both our life for good.I will also leave his mail here you contact purpose >>

Collins Orman

Hi everyone i'm Collins and i need help on getting back my ex. We got into a fight few weeks back now and i wish she can see how sorry i am now. I love her so much and i know she still loves me and i know she still cares, otherwise she wont be replying my text and knowing how i'm doing. But right now it seems like she is still confuse of her decision to breakup with me or give me a second chance. I need help not until i saw post of how Dr. Wicca has help a lot of people having issues like mine, though i have been hearing a lot about this spell caster and I hope that it he would be able to do something about bringing Lily back home cause i'm nobody without her. I ask if he can help me bring back my Lily too? I can tell you that his spell was outstanding and i'm so happy that he really help me put our past behind us and we are strong together now and thanks to Dr. Wicca because he is a true spell caster and i will recommend him to anyone having same problem too. He is powerful. Contact him on dr.wiccahightemple @ gmail . com or www . wiccanlovespells . net

anita roman

Hello my dear friend my name is dr okun am here to help the people that love their ex and those one that was been casting a spell of madness on to cast a good spell on how to get their life back that want the relationship to last for forever on these earth if you are the can of condition you can come to me for help I promise I we help you. this is my email address ( are welcome to my temple were all kind of problem are solve.


If you feel you are walking on egg shells around him, then his temper must frighten and upset you, you should be able to speak freely in a relationship. If he is making you do things that you don't want to do, then, he is clearly not thinking about your feelings. Before you know it he will be making your decisions for you and putting distance between you and family and friends, And the fear of being alone will be more terrifying. He has helped you through a very tough time, he knows how grateful you are, which is payment enough, he knows you love him, that's why he ends the relationship, to hurt you, and then calls you up. He is in control of you and his greatest weapon is that he was there for you in the past when things were tough, you feel you are forever in his debt, and so will he if he doesn't seek help for his temper. You are your own person you should be enjoying and sharing life. If he doesn't get help with his temper, then you should call it a day, You've already been through a very tough time, you don't want to live through any more. You deserve a good loving life with plenty of smiles. Take care xx

dannio hitchings

me and my girlfriend are ace but shes just too good in bedd. and its splitting us up. please help and make me better at sex. she never has an orgasm she just lies there boredd. we have sex only like once a month but i just never seem to please her. she has ended it once cause im so s***. please help!:(?


My boyfriend and I have been together officially 10 months, we got to know each other 4 months before hand, we argue everyday we both still live at home with our parents and each of our mood swings are staining our relationship, most of the time I feel as if I am walking on egg shells around him and have to be careful with what I say to make sure he doesn't get angry its very difficult I am not putting all the blame on him but sometimes I feel as if I am being bullied by him into doing things I do not want to, he is the only person I really have at the moment and as selfish as it sounds breaking up with him is not an option, he helped me through a tough time a really big one which I will be forever grateful for, just I do not think we can go on like this we both have enough stress as it is and we both should not be adding to it, I love him dearly just wish he would handle his temper,we had a massive argument a couple hours ago and I think he ended it but he normally calls, he has just this very second text me but I don't know if we can both go on like this, an somebody please help me?. Thanks, Sed.

Dave young

I,me a 66 year old Fit and healthy man, Divorsed, Been living with a woman who smokes heavily and don.t care where she smokes in the house. And i,me fed up with it.i,me looking for a room or a small flat as the house is hers, We are always argueing

Phoenix Trinity-May

I went out with one of my best mates for 3 weeks but then my ex boyfriend started causing trouble and eventualy ended up beating me sevral times and has got realy possessive and paranoid. Im too scared to tell anyone and im gutted ive lost my boyfriend because i love him still even though we arent together.... Weve even gone so low the we hardly say hi to eachother now im scared ive lost him as a friend too. Is there anything i can do to build back that friendship again? If so please could you send me some advice? i dont want to lose him again :(


ok, where do i start. my relationship of 18 yrs is now down to ziltch! my partner has always refused to get married, but tells everyone else that it is me that doesnt want it. now he has started drinking at least three litres a night, and often followed by vodka. we now argue all the time. when i had our son 13 yrs ago, i had PND and beat him up, but in my defense, he did antagonise the situation by telling me i was a fat lazy B***h. But for 13 yrs he has kept bringing this up everytime we have a row, which he usually starts. he suggested we move to another country, which we did, and promised me it would bring us closer. I made a huge effort to make friends with him encouraging me, but now he says i think more of them than him. well to be honest he thinks more of the dog than me!! i work building our home, and then work cleaning our home etc but all he sees is bad points. i dont know what to do because the only time we talk is in an argument and he is so much better than i am at them. I always end up being the one to apologise, when it is not always me that is at fault. I feel like i am going mad. life is way too short to carry on like this. but dont want to take his kids away from him.


im in a nitemare, ive split wiv my partner of 2 years who i love so much, were 2gether for 2 years, in the beginning it was really gd, sex and everything, then he started getting jealous,possessive an paranoid, i put up wiv it cause loved him, i stopped seeing my friends an going out just for him, i got a bit resentfull cause he still wanted 2 go out and see friends, then all of a sudden he stopped being jealous, possessive and paranoid and i became like it, is that reverse phycology or wot? also in the meantime i had a misscarrage and had 2 av an abortion at six months with twins, we got through that 2gether, now we have split cause he says he cnt handle the way i am, i admit i did say sum pretty nasty things to him through my paranoia, but he had his faults 2, anyway the split has blown me away, hit me so hard that i have snapped out of all this paranoia, i just want 2 show him that i have changed just like he snapped out of it, he just wnt give me the chance, wnt take the risk, how do i get him back, i love him so much so do my children, he was like a dad 2 them,i was a victim of domestic violence for eight years b4 imet him, i bn trying for 3 weeks 2 get him bck, we still talking, shud i give up, cnt live wivout him, any advice x


im very happy with my boyfriend we have been going out for about 13-14months, but the problem is he lies about stupid little things like "i havent eaten for 4 days" "i used to work here" and i know dam well hes lieing and he once told my family he was adopted and he aint hes also told them he had brought me a phone and a ring ect for loads of money and he was lieing! i dont understand why i dont know if i can help in anyway because now my family have lost all respect for him and no one belives a word he says i need some advise could some one please help me i will be so greatefull thankyou xx


im going thur the samething that both of u guys are going thur only ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have two kids by him already and im pregant again now i dont know what i sud do

dawn smith

where do i start??....theres a boy in my life that my family hate because he has used me, hurt me n broken my heart so many times in the past. he knows that he can get away with anything with me because i love him so much i just give in everytime. some days he will ignore me, other days he will answer n reply to my texts. he will only see me when he wants sex. we have started a relationship in the past but he left me because he said he only wants one night stands and to go out and have fun. he loves me and has feelings for me but wants me to wait for him 2 want me. i suffer with depression and self harm and he has no idea of how much he hurts me inside. i just dont know what to do to make him realise. he is 21 and i am 18...iv been in plenty of mistake relationships one of which beat me up. n i found it so hard to get over that n im now trying to turn my life around as its hard waking up every morning with scars to remind you of your past. but i just love him so much and want to be with him. uts driving me crazy. iv also had signs of pregnancy for the past 2 weeks as i let him use me 3 week ago. i just dont knw what to do.


my boyfriend of 2 years says he isnt happy anymore he has felt like this for 2 months what do i do

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