Mend a broken relationship: Gone off sex

kayshia, 5 months

i don't no why but my boyfriend don't wont to have children or get married but he did with his ex girlfriend and we been 2geter alot longer i just dont think he loves me as much as he makes out.

Claire, 5 months

My husband "went off" me almost 7 years ago. For a whole year he didn't even touch my hand or hug me. I thought he was having an affair, turned out he was into Internet sex and I had absolutely no idea. Nearly 6 years after making this discovery things are far from ok and we're at the point of near breakdown. He has not been able to get or maintain an erection but refused to accept there was a problem until I said I wanted to leave. I don't know what it's all about, all I know is, I've been faithful throughout and often wonder if I'm stupid for this because I know (at 45) that I'm in better nick than a lot of women half my age. He's recently said he's willing to try Relate - why wait til I want to end it to announce this??? I just don't get it?

Kim, 11 months

My boyfriends the same, every time i try to make a move he just laughs and gives me a hug or holds my hand or says he's tired. He's lovely kind and attentive in every other way but just doesn't seem that interested in sex. The only time he seems at all interested is in the mornings but i'm not a morning person and always have to rush out to work.

22, about 1 year

I actually have a question. Everything I look into is always about the women not wanting sex, what about when it's the other way around? I'm forever trying to get my bf to be intimate with me and find my self getting pretty angry that he says no all the time...hes always to tired or just doesnt feel like it. And when we do have sex it just seems like he's doing it to get it done and over with, i think the last time there was any foreplay for me was about a year ago when he was drunk. We don't have any kids so the stress of that is'nt the problem, and we live in a small town so if he was cheating im sure I would've heard by now although to me that seems like the most reasonable answer, mind you I really dont see when he could do that, where i wouldn't have noticed by now. My only other thought is that he's not attracted to me anymore, and my self esteem has dropped below 0. I've tryed to discuss this with many times, I tryed to be suddle and not make it a huge issue but its been goin on for so long that i couldn't help it and ended up making it a big one. He knows how I feel about it and that I dont find it very normal for the guy to be saying no everyday, but he still hasn't tryed to do anything about it. To top it off he talks about things he used to do with his ex's all the time to his friends and he's told me things to which hasn't help my confidence at all it only makes me feel even more like theres something about me which is why he's not intimate with me . I dont know what to do now, any suggestions as to why he might be doing this ???? I would love to hear a guys point of view I've tryed to ask a couple of his close friends which I know isn't right but they have'nt mentioned it to him or I would've heard it lol but all they can say is trust me he's not cheating on you and he's crazy to not have sex with you they would love to have a gf like me so that doesnt really help me much and my friends have said either he's cheating or is bored of me (which trust me i've done my best to spice things up) and once again he's crazy.