'I'm having a secret lesbian affair with my best friend's mum'

Natt, about 1 month

Thats awsome! I would die to jump into bed with my friends mum! haha! Its unlucky that you fell in love because now your trapped, if it was just sex Id say go for it! Although i still do, i understand how you think everyone would feel about it and with society nowa days still not completely comfortable with homosexualityy let alone 20 year age gaps in relationships, Id say your probly doing the right thing. But if it was me, Id defently still be sneaking in for little sessions now and again. You'll Be Fine !! =D

Lesbian_Lover, 5 months

I love being a lesbian and i frequently have lesbian sex. But there is a catch. It is also with my best friends mum. We hid it well for about 2 years, then once we was having role play and my best friend walked in on us. She learned to except it and now we are all living together and gradually she is became happy for us. Just tell your best friend. True, you don't know how they will react, but a true friend will tell you how it is and then you should become more secure just like i was.

anon, 8 months

u shud tell your best freind,no one has mentioned how she will feel when she finds out you've been sleeping with her mum. have you or this woman even thought about her feelings,you should tell your mate first and see her reaction and take it from there,if your freind does'nt talk to her mum then how do you know that this woman wont change her mind bout you and stop talking to you for the sake of her familyor even blame you if her daugher becomes difficult towards her,that will tell you what type of lover/g.freind you thought she was,just be carefull an make wise decisions.

Bridget, 11 months

if you love her, and are willing to accept the relationship on her terms, go back to her. if not, and you want it to be an equal relationship, talk to her. has she called you? is she missing you, for who you are and not your body? as for not classing yourself as a lesbian, you've had a relationship with a woman, and that doesn't need to be a pigeonhole for you to squeeze yourself into. just follow your heart, but don't make a compromise that will not make the situation horrible for you. good luck!

Maria, about 1 year

I am surprised that there are no alternative comments on this. What reaction would there have been to a 33 year old man with a 16 year old girl? I'm sure someone would have cried pervert! My advice would be to ask yourself why the older woman has kept it a big secret. Blondie there is real and enduring love and there are short term affaires that burn themselves out. They are experiences to be learned from. One is about instant gratification. Your 33 year old, a mother, is not behaving in a responsible manner and therefore I would question just how good a long term partner she would prove to be. If it truely is a relationship for the long haul it will last any separation for however long. Give yourself a year of being away from this situation and spend the time getting to make friends and a support group of people around you. Then ask yourself is this really what I thought it was and what I truely want?

Annie, about 1 year

i had a crush on my best friend Kim she is 32 im 19 she was my mentor and roommate she was appointed my mentor from a church i was going to ...is his weird?i dont like her anymore its just a confession.

passingtrucker, about 1 year

We all need love and acceptance, regardless if it's a heterosexual, gay, or lesbian affair. Blondie is feeling guilty because society dictates we should all adhere to a heterosexual and monogamous relationship. However, psychologist and sociologist have questioned this belief, which had its origin from the Catholic and Christian church doctrines. Science had concluded that sexual orientation is genetic, not by choice. However, people of conservative value refuse to accept scientific data, and stubbornly insist that church doctrine should be the law. Until these people of "older" values die out, and replaced by the better-educated people who had accepted the scientific data to logically explain gay and lesbian behavior, it may be prudent that Blondie should get over her feelings of guilt, and continue to see this woman in secret. If she feels happy and secure being with her, then continue the secret relationship, and no one needs to know what is going on. She's not the first woman to have a secret lesbian affair, and she won't be the last. If my wife were having an affair behind my back, I'd rather it's with another woman, and I would condone the affair without letting her know I'm wise to her deception.

diane, about 1 year

If they really love each other what does it matter what peoploe think of them. They love each other and that should matter above all else. Age shouldn't matter when it comes to love!

anon, about 1 year

love is hard why should you suffer for love is hard to find why not be happy people are afraid they may like it so poo poo same sex if its truly love and not a crush then be strong and go for love not sorrow

????, about 1 year

hiya i think you should get your woman back. at the end of the day if she feels the same way then thats wots ment 2 be. an if down the line it doesnt work out at least u tried. by writin on here youve shown already how much its getting to you being without her so go get your woman an be happy hope everthing works out 4 u xxx

Dani, about 1 year

Hi blondie.... i was very touched after reading your story. I think you should fight for the women you love. if you really want this women and love her as much as you say you do, then nothing should get in the way... get this women back. it maybe hard for some people to accept at first but if you mean anything to them they will come round in time. The only person you should be worried about is your friend. make sure it comes from you and not anyone else. good luck i hope everything works out for you x x

chelsie, about 1 year

if i was you i would just get her back if you love her that much cuz i know how love feels and how it feels not to be wid them

gemma, about 1 year

I think you need to be open and honest with each other and with your friend and families, this may not be easy and you might hear things you didnt want to but thats life! If you love this lady like you express then go for it. You both need to be honest with yourselfs and those around you though if this is going to become a relationship and last. Keeping this from those around you could be destructive and hurtful for all involved.

catherine, about 1 year

Im a gay women, and happiness is so hard to find, i wouldnt care what other people say, its your life.. people do come round... i got with a married lady, and it was hard,, but we have been together 14 yrs, its been rough at times, but worth it.. go with your heart,, go fot it.. be happy...

Sally - Anne, about 1 year

Fight For The Things You Love, Once You Lose Them They Dont Always Come Back. If your Family And Friends Really Love You They'll Love You Whatever You Are, Whetever You Do. Dont Let Love Die.

charlie, about 1 year

at the end of the day blondie you have to sometimes fight for the things you want and if you love her then why not try to be something more ok because as long as your both happy and love and care for eachother you shoulnt care what people will think.