Cheating: Accusations and not adding up
9. He accuses you of cheating
His behaviour: This will probably come as a bit of a shock, but he'll possibly ask outright if you've been seeing someone else. Men tend to be more direct than women.
The innocent explanation: Although statistics show that men cheat more than women, that doesn't mean he won't have his own suspicions. If your relationship is going through a rough patch, it's not an unreasonable explanation - especially if you've stopped talking as much.
The guilty reason: It's common for cheaters to suspect their partners of cheating simply because they believe that if they're getting away with it, you can too. This is also how many people who cheat deal with their guilt - they try to make themselves feel better by turning the tables. Once you've got over your initial shock at being accused, it might be worth looking a little closely at what he's up to!
10. Things don't add up
His behaviour: Has he started changing his daily routine for seemingly no reason? Maybe his actual job hasn't changed, but he starts leaving earlier in the morning and getting back later. Or perhaps he told you he was out with Steve last week, but you later discover that Steve was away at a conference.
The innocent explanation: Work could be getting more stressful - perhaps someone has left, leaving him with more work than normal. Alternatively, he could be arranging some sort of surprise party and he doesn't want you to know what he's up to.
The guilty reason: Once someone starts lying, it becomes more and more difficult to keep up the act, so when small unexplained things start happening or you notice inconsistent things, there could be something not-so-innocent as an explanation.
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Where to next?
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Cheating: Accusations and not adding up
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Cheating: Friends notice and he changes
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Cheating: Hot in bed and irritated
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Cheating: Instinct and too much attention
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Cheating: Technology and not talking
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Cheating: Work events and showers
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He's having an affair
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He's having an affair: Decision time
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He's having an affair: how you might feel
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He's having an affair: Should you go?
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He's having an affair: Should you stay?
anon, about 1 year
My husbands best friends wife keeps texting my hubby with messages from his best friend as he says he doesnt like using the telephone should I be worried
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