'No-one knows about my new man'

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Woman with her head in hands
I have a new man in my life and we get on very well, that is when we see each other!

I am separated with 2 teenage daughters and he is currently separating from his wife, and has 3 sons all over the age of 18. My parents have no idea that I'm seeing anyone and my daughters certainly don't at the moment as they are still getting over their dad walking out on us.

He has a busy job, so we never have a chance to talk much during the day. We also don't see each other in the evenings as we a long way from each other at the moment, so we agree to meet at the weekends. Unfortunately he doesn't keep our arrangements - there's always an excuse that he can't meet me.

I have tried to talk to him, tell him my feelings and tell him what I feel is going wrong in our relationship. I am 35 and he is 21 years older than me, so I thought he would know how to treat people.

When we do have sex, it's great - he totally satisfies me, but overall I'm just frustrated because I do love this man and just want a normal relationship with him. He knows how I feel and he says he wants the same thing, but things aren't moving on.

I have been honest with him and given him an ultimatum that it's his family or me now, as I am not putting my life on hold for him any more and if I'm what he wants, then now has to be the time to make a decision.

I don't know what else to say or do to make him see that he is doing is destroying what we have.

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He sounds like he is misleading you. Are you really sure that he is leaving his wife? Sounds like he isn't that in to you otherwise he'd be going all out to meet with you and chase you. I know you probably love him but the best thing you can do right now is get out of the relationship, stand on your own two feet and then meet a man that deserves you!

Sandra, 17

His family or you? What kind of ultimatum is that?! He might love you and all but why would he pick his family who he has had years to love over you, especially when it's you making him choose? I might be young but jesus, at least I have some common sense!


i think he is just useing u for sex. if that what u want,then carry on.


... I'd say ur doing the right thing. Even if he assures that everything is going to be all right, dont give in until he comes to you completely. Oderwise theres no use and he might even be cheating on u.

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