'I fancy a man at work but I'm engaged'

Natt, 2 months

All this is true. Talk to your fiance first. atleast try to sort it out with him, that way if you split atleast you can say you tried ur hardest to keep it working. On the other hand , have fun, i dont know you but personally id rather see you happy than sad. even if the crush at work doesnt work out, atleast your not stuck in a engagment that maybe you dont actually want to be in.

Jessica, 3 months

the one thing for sure is that you should not marry this man. break off the engagement.

Raymond, 7 months

I do a agree with Pepper, you're feeling emotionally guilty for the fact that you're engaged but falling head over hills for your colleague. Nobody is able to advice you for who you should be with. The answer lies within yourself..! I've heard of a common story, when a person is given a choice to choose between A and B only, usually a common reaction is to pick none, A or B but C is usually selected due to inability to make a sensible decision. Maybe you're that type? Like Pepper mentioned, you NEED to spend more time with yourself, get to know 'the real you' better. Once you recognize yourself, you'll be able choose wisely. Wish you luck!!!

David, 8 months

Please be careful in the decision you make because it may just backfire on you. What seems like a good feeling can easily turn into a great nightmare. My ex live-in girlfriend made the choice of crossing that line with a married co-work. She thought she was happy with that decision until he told her it was nothing more then just a fling to satisfy his attraction for her and had no intentions of leaving his wife. She later after months of contemplating confesses to me what she has done. She broke my heart in more ways imaginable. I am now currently in a new beautiful relationship and now my ex realizes the good man she has lost. I’ve failed to mention we have a gorgeous daughter together (my ex and I) which also had a huge affect on all of our lives. I’m no relationship export but I do have feelings like the rest of us. So I’ll tell you this, be upfront with your mate and more importantly be upfront with yourself. Ask yourself what damages will occur if your mate was to find out and if its even worth it to begin with. Good luck to you and God Bless!!!!

chezza, about 1 year

Hi Kacey. I know exactly how you feel because im in the same position. Ive been with my partner for 6 years and a couple months back i met someone and we really fancy each other. Thing is we are both in relationships. Ive tried to fight it by not responding to hes texts but he very persistant. Like you, i need to know what path to go down?

natalia, about 1 year

Hey i am going threw the same thing But i am not married.. and it is true we barely have sex like 1once a 3 week.. But to tell you the truth i do feel really acctractive to this man in my job too. But it is not our faults me and you barely have sex. were lonely.. And i am sure that you feel like this person in your job makes you feel better than you husband... same here good luck

Carrie, about 1 year

Hi Kacey, I think it's clear that deep down you really don't want to marry your fiance. I can't believe he told you that he cant get an erection when he thinks about you. Is that the kind of person you want to speand your live with. Hope would you feel when you do have sex, knowing that he's probably thinking about someone else. I don't think you should put everything into the vloke you work with though, because if he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you would he do the same if you were together???? Maybe you should take some time by yourself and see what you want out of life!!! Good Luckxx

fizz, about 1 year

ditto Pepper

Pepper, about 1 year

This isnt good. I honestly advise you to break off your engagement,move out and spend some time on your own with no men.Work out what you really want.The fact that your fiance is aroused thinking about other women but is not aroused when you are together speaks volumes. If you really love/fancy someone you are not looking elsewhere and lets be honest you are in the sense you are attracted to another man.However,he is with someone else and you really have to question his motives. You are in no way ready for marriage and should not be engaged to this man.

MELISSA, about 1 year

hi kacey my heart really goes out to you as i think you already know the answer to your own question,i personally feel that you know in your heart that you should not go through with this marriage,if you were as happy as you should you would not be looking else where ,you need to tke time and find a an that will fullfill you in EVERY way possible and the fact that your an has told you he can get sexually stimulited thinking of other women tells alot on his behalf too,all i can say is follow your own heart and listen to what it is telling you because i think you know deep down you wont be happy if you marry this man hope verything works out for youxxxmel

Dani, about 1 year

Hi Kacey I really feel for you. Every women deserves to feel loved and wanted. I think beacause you are not getting this at home you are looking for it else where. This is why you are thinking of this other man as much as you are, because he is paying ylou the attention you want. However this man is out of bounds, you have said that he has a girlfriend. She doesnt deserve to be hurt and you shouldnt be part of hurting her. I think you need to decide weather your marriage is going anywhere. It isnt fair on you or your husband to be unhappy. Dont act on your feelings for this other man, not while your both in relationships. Talk to your husband and work out if you are going to give your marriage a fighting chance. good luck x x