'Can I be with a bisexual man?'

marina, 2 months

I have been this my husband for of and on 18 years, the last two years i have suspected something just wasn't right. i pretended to be him and text a certain guy i suspected, and well i found out more than i wanted to.. i don't have a problem with gay men, but DO NOT go out screwing men and then come home to your wife, i now am single and he's still in denyal, he has lost his wife, kids and all his friends because of the betrayal and lies.. I personally would tell all you men riding the fence, come clean and don't sneak around, the lies and betrayal is the worst . And the sadest part is his family new what he was, and was hopeing i could get him to go straight i guess, but he has ruined my life and my childrens, lives, I am now a single mom with no job, cause i lost it when i hit the depression stage, thanks for nothing you loser

Tom, 6 months

bisexuality exists glad so many others are standing up for us - progress is being made - don't ever let anyone bring you down by telling you bisexuality doesn't exist etc - love to the good bis

J, 7 months

I have just read the comments on this page, and there is one in particular that really, really annoyed me - the one from Matt. He is denying that i exist, which i take objection to. For years homosexuals have fought for public recognition and are now at the stage where to be openly gay is generally more acceptable than it was twenty or thirty years ago. Yet he is now treating us bisexuals in the same manner that homosexuals were treated. I know that i am not homosexual, neither am i straight. i use the bisexual pigeonhole because it is the closest thing to what i am. Yes, it is true, there is a whole range of grey between the black and white ends of sexuality that people in general (who inhabit the black or white areas) are unaware of, and deny. My position is this - i am to all outward appearances a "normal" (dont you just love that word, how can anyone define it?) masculine male. Throughout my life i have followed "normal" male habits, traits characteristics etc. However, my fetish is transvestism. i adore womens bodies so much i want to be able to dress and look like them, i dont find the male physique attractive or sexually arousing at all. I have had sex with women and transvestites/shemales alike, but not with a "man". So what if a "girl" has something swinging between her legs..... Funny thing is, gay men dont like us because we look like girls (hopefully!) and straight girls dont want us either! So, which box would you put me in? Do i really care? No. But i do care when people deny my existence, my right to be me. P.S. i have been with my girlfriend for 15 years now, we have four children. I have never, ever cheated on her. The sad thing is, even she thinks i am a pervert and wont talk about it.......

Aaron, 8 months

I'm bisexual, I have only had 3 encounters with men compared to hundreds of female partners. I really do like to have fun with men that I'm attracted to physically, but I will always choose a woman over a man. I guess I'm just greedy. Your husband will be fine and so will your marriage if you don't make a huge issue over it, he is who he is..Just because he likes to play with other men from time to time doesn't mean he doesn't love you. You might even want to join in, my last encounter with a man was with him and my girlfriend..she loved it!

R, 10 months

I've been engaged for almost 2 years now and very much in love with my fiance (between us we have 4 children). I've always had a suspicious feeling though. I finally did some snooping and discoverd that he has had sex with hundreds of men. He meets men online when he travels and hooks up. I'm shocked by it because he's the most masculine man I've ever known. As much as it hurt me to know this, I feel almost a sense of relief. I've had a nagging feeling that he is interally conflicted about something. I see it in his actions, so what I found kind of explains a lot about who he is. I have not confronted him. I'm scared to...maybe he'll be humiliated by me knowing this about him? Maybe he'll want me out of his life because I know this? I'm not sure what to do... I'm not condoning it. Whether it's men or women, he's doing this behind my back and I shouldn't have to accept it.

Cindy, 11 months

I am seeing this married man who is younger than me he is 30 I am 49 I have been seeing him for 14 months I justfound out he is having sex with men He still has sex with me and loves my sex he even told the man he had sex with he loves my sex. I was upset when I found out about this we don't talk about it he doesn't know I know. I just don't know what to do.

Olympias, 11 months

Matt seems confused, bitter and angry, perhaps a man left him for a woman? Since there are people who are attracted to both sexes throughout their lives, there is no doubt that people can be bisexual. If a married man falls in love with another man and leaves his wife, it doesn't prove that he wasn't in love with his wife, people fall in and out of love, and leave each other, all the time. Obviously sometimes people are trying to fool themselves, or disguise their true natures, but that doesn't mean that there are no bisexual people. Becky's husband may decide to stay with her because he loves her, or leave her at some point for a man or a woman. Alexander was probably towards the gay end of the spectrum, but married women because it was politically expedient, he certainly never "married" a man. Brokeback Mountain was fiction, and doesn't really prove anything. Most people exist somewhere on the scale of gay to straight, as discovered by Kinsey, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Jess, 12 months

HI im jess, im almost 18 n i find it hard to talk about sexuality at home, or my boyfriend will get in a mood with me because he dont like me looking at other girls, cause he thinks i will go off with another girl, which i wont because i love hiim! I agree that homophobia is wrong but their is such thing as bisexuality its just like anyother sexuality, it should be accepted as its own sexual orientation, i get s*** at college because of it, they tease me and call me greedy and a queer bitch. i Cannot handle this s*** anymore. It's like wat Matt said, *bisexuals dont exist, ive dealt with that criticism. I thought gays were on our side *being a bisexual in all* i have gay friends. guys and girls. but i wouldnt change my fviews on them, their still humans at the end of the day. and so are bisexuals! its sexuality and human nature. so if people cannot abide by it then they can back off! end of rant! let me know if you want to me about anything and just email me:) ok

Talia Bowie, about 1 year

I need some advice from anyone I have been with someone for 7 years on and off right now we have live together he is my best friend I love him to death's he's a bottom The only problem I have is that he not showing me any attention the question is how do I get him to want me again

Gem, about 1 year

I am bi. I wish I wasn't but i am. I can't help my feelings. i can't change them. If i could, i would. believe me. It's often said that bi-sexual people are greedy. This is not true. I fall for people because that's exactly what they are-PEOPLE!! Their gender isn't an issue. I know you're shocked by your husbands confession. Of course you are. But it could be worse. He could have lied. he chose to be honest. He could have had an affair with a man. He didn't.

DEE, about 1 year

i have been married 32 years... last month I noticed a phone number.. which my husband seems to call just on saturday, and sunday mornings... I called the number from his cell phone.. and then hung up when a man answered. the man called back and I answered the phone.. when he heard my voice he hung up.. I looked up his number and its a cell phone.. I confronted my husband and he said its just a guy he knows from a cigar shop.. they sometimes meet and have a cigar together.. I suspected he was lying.. we have been in business together for 30 years.. my husband had no secrets ( so I thought).. i knew all his friends and their numbers.. it was strange i thought.. since then.. he has not contacted this person.. and this person has not contacted him. ( I;ve been checking the phone everyday)... also, we hadn't had sex in over a year... I told him I thought he was cheating on me.. he denied it and said... we were just in a rut... he loved me... and he would never cheat on me... I told him... if he did.. I would not want to be in this marriage and i would hope he would be honest with me... He has always been a trust worthy person.. to me it's not in his nature... but now I have doubts... do I spy on him? oh.. ps.. since the confrontation... we have been having sex... every other night... and its great... any suggestions?

Matt, about 1 year

I'm sorry, but I surely don't believe that there is such thing as male bisexuals. I may be wrong but there is no proof. I'm gay and I think that bisexuals are attracted to the same sex and emotionally love the opposite sex. As studies show, you are either " gay, straight, or lying ". NY news published that. You can search all over the internet. Also, in the past, there was no such thing as " bisexuality " not even for girls. People just came up with that to be accepted in both straight and gay community. For example, Alexander the great married a girl and a guy. But he wasn't considered a bisexual. NO SUCH THING IS TRUE. Bisexuals [ especially men ] claim to be equally attracted to both genders. NOT TRUE. Have you ever seen Brokeback Mountain ? No such thing as bisexuality for males. " Bisexual " men just say that they are in love with you. They wouldn't want their family to tell him " gay " or a "homosexual". I know deep down that people that see this message and are bisexual [ especially men ] are going to deny it and agree with me in their heads. SO HE IS DEFINITELY LYING TO YOU- take this from someone of experience

Chris, about 1 year

Don't listen to the Gay friends. I am a Bisexual and I can tell you, for certain, that bisexuality DOES EXIST. Anyone who says otherwise is Biphobic and has absolutely no clue.