How to find your G-spot

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How to find your G-spot
The G-spot is one of life's mysteries, much like the Loch Ness monster and the Holy Grail. Scientists and sexperts have been arguing over the G-spot for years but most now agree that for some women it does exist, and it can lead to amazing orgasms.

So here's how to find your G-spot and 5 great tips on how to use it - and don't worry if you don't think you have a G-spot because these tips will have you orgasming for England anyway!

What is your G-spot?

For those believers out there the G-spot is a super-sensitive area found inside the front wall of the vagina. When it's stimulated, like the clitoris, it can bring you to orgasm quicker than just penetrative sex.

Why's a G-spot so special?

Deborah Sundahl, expert on female ejaculation and author of Female Ejaculation and the G-spot, says: ' The G-spot has a unique orgasm, which is different from the clitoris. This is due to the fact that the prostate has a different nerve (pelvic) than the clitoris (pudendal), and therefore the G-spot has a different orgasmic sensation. This feeling is one of deep, melting love, and women love it!'

Does every woman have a G-spot?

Well, the jury's still out on this one, sexpert Lou Paget says: 'Yes, the G-spot exists, but every woman is different. For some it's an off-the-wall experience and others feel nothing. In the same way that some women have especially sensitive nipples and others don't.'

Why do we have a G-spot?

Some medical evidence suggests that the G-spot has a purpose other than to make you feel really, really good! Sexpert Emily Dubberley says: 'Some scientists believe the G-spot can help ease childbirth because when the G-spot is stimulated the pain threshold is increased by up to 84 per cent.'

So if you're planning a baby any time soon, it could be worth investigating!

Can the G-spot give you a guaranteed orgasm?

'There's no such thing as a guaranteed orgasm', says Emily. 'But knowing whether G-spot stimulation works for you is certainly a good thing - the better you know your body, the higher your chances of having an orgasm.'

Is it true the G-spot can make you ejaculate?

Recent research found that some women can ejaculate through sex, foreplay or by having their G-spot stimulated but it's different to the way men ejaculate - women do it before they orgasm. But don't get hung up on whether you are ejaculating or not. Sex and relationship psychologist Dr Petra Boynton says, 'Some men are convinced that if a woman doesn't ejaculate she hasn't had a 'good' orgasm. But this is often an idea that comes from porn and usually it's faked or it's just urine. If you're being made to feel inferior make it clear to him this isn't a turn on for you, instead show him what does work.'

How do I find my G-spot?

There's no harm in having a feel around yourself to see if you can find it.

Inside the vagina there's a small patch of ridged, knobbly tissue about 2 1/2 - 5 cms. It's on the front wall of the vagina, so if you're lying on your back and you can feel it with your fingers, they would be pointing up to the ceiling rather than down to the floor. You should notice a rougher patch of skin in comparison to the smooth areas either side - bingo! You've found it.

Or try this tip from Lou Paget:
'Rather than lying on a bed it may be easier to be squat down and feel inside of yourself, but make sure you're a bit aroused first. Women's fingers can sometimes be too small or short to reach inside so a G-spot toy or a partner's fingers might find it more easily.'

'It is possible to actually sit down in front of a big mirror on the floor, spread the labia lips, push out with the vaginal muscles and see the G-spot!' says Deborah Sundahl. 'You can see the ridges. I advise all women to take a look and get acquainted with this lovely female organ.'

I can't feel anything!

Don't worry, you're completely normal. Dr Petra says, 'You're not superior if you have a part of your vagina that feels good when touched, and you're not abnormal if you don't get turned on by having the G-spot area stimulated - we're all different. And don't forget the other areas of the body that turn you on.'

Oh! Yes, I've found it - now what do I do?

Just follow our 5 expert G-spot moves to maximise your pleasure!

G-spot tip No.1 - Get in the mood

It might sound silly but you can't just hit your G-spot and expect instant pleasure. Like many things, it's worth the wait. So, relax, take your time, enjoy some foreplay first - it's easier to find that knobbly, fleshy mound if you are already aroused. And it doesn't matter if you think you don't have a G-spot, as long as you're enjoying sensual sensations, then you or your partner is doing something right.

If you're getting anxious just stop, enjoy some kissing, cuddling and foreplay, use some lube and enjoy your whole body, not just your vagina.

G-spot tip No.2 - Try a sex toy!

Have you ever seen those vibrators that are curved at the top? They can be helpful in finding and stimulating the G-spot. Apply a little bit of lube on to the tip of the vibrator and insert it with the curved tip pointing up towards your belly, so that it finds the G-spot. Move it slowly around the G-spot but don't forget your clitoris, lips and breasts too.

If you're with your partner let him have a go, he might find it easier to stimulate you with the vibrator - then you can just lie back and let him do the hard work! Find the best sex toy for you with our tried and tested guide.

G-spot tip No.3 - Use your fingers

Whether you're doing it yourself or getting help from your partner the technique is the same. Add some lube to the middle and index fingers and slide them a couple of inches inside your vagina.

Start to make 'come here' motions against the front of your vaginal wall - like you're beckoning to someone. Your G-spot should feel different to the smooth walls of the rest of your vagina - it should be noticeably more bumpy and raised. The only way to really know if you're hitting the right spot is how it makes you feel.

Some women say they get a sudden urge to wee (which should pass), and others just feel instantly aroused. If nothing happens at first, try touching it in a different way, vary the speed, change the pressure from light, flicking motions to rubbing intensely, try circular movements and going side-to-side. You'll be surprised at how different they'll all make you feel.

G-spot tip No.4 - Get on top

Tired of all that messing around? Just want to get down to it? Don't worry - it is possible to stimulate your G-spot while having sex and one of the best way to do it is by getting on top.

When you're in control you can angle his penis, shift and move around until you've got it just right and make sure you tell him when you have! Your fella can help you by tilting his pelvis as much as possible. Make sure you've done plenty of foreplay to start with because your G-spot is easier to stimulate when you're already aroused.

G-spot tip No.5 - Do it doggy style

Whatever your thoughts are on doggy-style, there's no denying that it's good for hitting your G-spot - and a perfect position to hide your belly!

The best way to feel the benefits are by getting your man to put his legs outside of yours and lean forward as he thrusts, tilting your bum upwards. This will help to angle his penis downwards, on a direct course to your G-spot!

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Experiment with moving your legs closer together or further apart as different people are sensitive in different places.

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sourav t

Look we are friends here & we both want to loose our virginity. As I asked her whether you want to loose virginity with me. She denied me. But the condition here is that she is pretty excited to loose virginity but she is little bit of shy & like she has an boyfriend currently much worried about that & stuff. But yes she is ready to have a intercourse but than too ain't not making sense in experimenting. So how to please her. & How to satisfy to make a move.


soooo... what's his number? :D

Toni Massari

It does exist, but it can only be stimulated by anal penetration. And no, I am not kidding or dissing you, it is, and it suggests that the g-spot is connected with the prostate gland, in men, and the Skene's gland, in women.

Toni Massari

Couldn't be more wrong! totally different sensation.

Toni Massari

There is a wealth of literature out there, but the secret is to try and get out of your own sensations and identify with hers. Vaginal orgasm kinda relies not heir being fairly strong emotions from the woman's part.

Toni Massari

One of the advantages of being a lesbian, and a pretty promiscuous one in my youth, is that I made love with many dozens of women. At least 70% of them could achieve vaginal orgasm. Why only 70%? Because they were the women who had mutual feelings. Similarly, I found I could only experience g-apot orgasm with women with whom I had fairly deep emotional connection. I believe that is the secret.. as the article says: the sensation is one of deep, body-melting love, as though your womb and your heart were suddenly and blissfully connected in a love-sex fest. So totally different from the clitoral orgasm I found that clitoral stimulation actually prevented me from experiencing g-spot orgasm.


I didn't know about G-spot till I was 28 years old. I wish I would have known sooner. A man showed me and I told him at first that I felt like I was going to pee and I did not like it but he urged me to let him continue to fondle it and I am glad I let him. It was the best feeling that I have ever felt and now I learned to find it myself and even without a toy. i was very unsexual and pretty much hated having sex till he showed me THE SPOT. Now I enjoy having sex as long as he knows where the spot is. Sometimes all you gotta do is do a little teaching but it is well worth the lesson!

tom lang

think of the g-spot as an inner clit. with your finger inside her use your thumb on her clit. make an O with your finger and thumb and you've found her g-spot. it's that simple to find. figured that out as a teenager and have been using it now for 50+ yrs. it's never failed me.

Jennifer Ginika Mgbatogu

I think I touched my g spot but felt no different, have never had an orgam nd it freaks me out

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i feel nothing !! matter fact i never felt plesure during sex :(

Reuben Sean

Found a comprehensive article with a diagram to illustrate, just thought id share --

Diane J. Houser

I am not like the average female. There have been times when I've been asked by those I've dated "what's wrong with you?" They've noticed somethings. I believe that I am a rare bird and can say that I don't have one and kid you not. If I did, someone would have found it years ago. My relationships have been few over the years. I do believe that could be a factor among others. Never married, no kids, and I currently do have a boyfriend. He actually made a comment about me not "coming" on the inside. Different positions don't work either. Been there and done it. The article mentions going to the bathroom. I usually have to go afterwards. Tell me something different. I just might believe it.


great article,very useful information...thanks


I totally agree with Sandy. It is always our female bodies that's discussed when talking about sex, orgasms and g-spots, ect. We know our bodies and what we can do with it. We would like to know more about our sexual competitors..... thanx


how come it is always the female g-spot which is discussed, what about the male g-spot or do they not count

robert kehoe

how can i please my woman in bed she says im boring and cant get her off without her doing it herself i feel like a big flop now or are we just not suited

Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S.

Gr&#195&#164fenberg himself made it very clear that there is no spot "on the vaginal anterior wall at the posterior of the urethra." However, what there is is a gland that completely surrounds the urethra. It most women it is located closest to the urethral opening. Just imagine the line of the urethra going up the middle of the groin to the bladder. You can stimulate the G Spot through the upper wall of the vagina, generally close to the vaginal opening OR sometimes by massaging it from the outside at a point just above the pubic bone. The woman should feel an initial desire to go to the bathroom which should let you know you are on the right track. This is discussed in length in my article, "The Human Female Prostate and Its Relationship to the Popularized term G Spot" which can be found at - Dr. G -- Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S.

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