'I'm having an affair with the man next door'

I have been with my fiancé for just over two years. He's 12 years older than me and we have a four-month-old son but for the last two-and-a-half months, my neighbour and I have been kissing and having oral sex.

I told my partner on the first occasion that we kissed and promised that it would never happen again, but every time we both have a drink the same thing happens.

I've heard from other people that my neighbour has cheated on his girlfriend 6 times in 6 years but tells me that I'm the only one.

Lately his girlfriend has become all friendly with me, inviting me shopping and to lots of events. I feel really guilty when I'm around her because she's always saying how much she doesn't trust her boyfriend. They also have a baby daughter together, which makes me feel even worse.

I love my boyfriend but he suffers with anxiety and depression which makes our relationship hard. He's always saying how ill he is and that he doesn't want to socialise with friends but seems to be fine when he wants to do something. I cant help but think of my neighbour and want to be with him, but I know that I have a good man in my fiancé. What shall I do?

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Gordon, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

E ven if you are not married, you should be.. I am one of the old school who believe that," if you are not prepared to make a commitment, then why did you have a baby in the first place. " Either do the right thing or get out of there, but don't get youself hooked up with the cheating bugger next door..

jessica, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Here is what i think, your boy friend may be a great man but he is not forfilling all needs. (Even still u not cheat). The neighbour may be fun but, ther is no dought u r not the first girl to turn his head. You need to find that person who takes ur breath away and no matter what man is in ur path or around u he will not intreast u. If u find that man he will make sure u r happy and completly satisfied!!!! (I HOPE U DONT GET CAUGHT, BECAUSE THERE IS ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT WILL B HURT) get out as soon as u can

amzo, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

dani ya shud cum clean 2 ya parrtner because wat u r doin is very wrong n u r playin a dangerous game n ya r goin 2 hurt alot of people eh ya av 2 fink of other people not just ya self

sarah louise 18, 2 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I THINK YOU SHOULD CONFESS TO YOUR BOYFREIND DANI MY MOTO IS ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT I KNOW YOU HAVE A KID BUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS WRONG AND YOUR PLAYING WITH YOUR BOYFREIND FEELINGS AND ITS NOT FAIR ON HIM IF YOU DONT TELL HIM AND HE AND THE NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOURS GIRLFREIND FINDS OUT THERE WILL BE HELL. I KNOW WHAT IT LIKE AND ANOTHER THING I KNOW YOUR BOYFREIND GOT DEPRESSION BUT HE COULD ALWAYS TALK TO SOMEONE YOU NEED TO GET OVER THE NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOUR IF YOU LOVE YOUR BOYFREIND THEN STAY WITH HIM IF NOT DUMP HIM! ...........

Ana Black, 2 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Is moving a option ?? Sounds like you have a good man , its not worth it .....think about you baby .....& your future . !!

Marianne, 2 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Dani, we all what ya are doing is very wrong. i know in this life that these things happen even though they shouldnt. ye are both going to cause a lot of pain and hurt in the long run to both your families. first of all ye both have a child and plus your partner suffers with depression which is bad enough-just think how much more worse it could make him feel if he really knew it was still going on. i know you really like your neighbour and temptation will always be there but you can stop it if you want to. just try and think of other peoples feelings if you can(your partner and your neighbours partner)and put yourself in their shoes as if it was being done to you. you need to sort things out, you mentioned that you have a good man in your partner which is the most important thing of all and if u and your neighbour really want to be together, i think ye should sort things out before this lies goes on any further because trust me it could turn out really really NASTY..

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