'Help, I'm obsessed with sex!'

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Hello, my name's Beka. I'm 18 years old and I am sex-obsessed.

I had my first proper boyfriend when I was 15. We were together for 6 months. Whenever we got the chance we had sex - anytime, anywhere.

When we broke up, the thing that affected me the most was the fact that I wasn't having sex.

Not long after we split, his twin brother started flirting with me. I was so upset that only 2 weeks after breaking up with my boyfriend, I found myself having sex with his twin!

This carried on for about a month until he decided he wasn't interested any more. I then found myself begging him for sex. It wasn't long before we were at it again - he's as sex-mad as I am. We had sex at work - just the thought getting caught really turned me on.

It's all over but he's told everyone about it. The problem now is, I've fallen in love with him.

The fact that I'm not having sex is also driving me crazy! I don't know what to do.

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  • Neil, posted 3 months ago

    Please get in touch. Im making a radio doc about office relationships and Id love to hear your story. Its for a national radio station. Cheers

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  • cookaburra, posted 1 year ago

    This is the difficulty when people start having sex at an early age. I am 43 now and I got married at the age of 35. It is true that I have had some brief encounters of sex with some women but then I was never addicted as it was not love but pure physical requirement. I could make the difference as I was matured when I had my first sex at the age of 22. Now beca should seriously concentrate on something else than sex. Better she should join some self-help group and should not be alone. If she feels like having sex then let her use vibrators. At least this will save her from incurable diseases like aids and other stds which a person might get due to sleeping with multiple partners

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  • Jamie, posted 1 year ago

    Sex toys are always a good option. I was in a similar situation where I was single for over a year and deprived. Using toys is a good way to get yourself off without anybody knowing and without having many 'short-run' partners. I would suggest a good vibrator because they're good for penetration as well as clitoral stimulation.

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  • Obinna Ekwom, posted 1 year ago

    The four way test: 1.Is it the TRUTH? 2.Is it FAIR to all concerned? 3.Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS? 4.Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned? Every problem has a solution, you have done the right thing by opening up. Be bold enough to seek therapy. Seek God and His kingdom and everything would be added unto you. I am sure He'll pull you through this and many more. Remain blessed.

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  • allie, posted 1 year ago

    i know exactly how you feel. I seriously was addicted to sex! omg ! it sucked so bad exspecialy because when i found the one i loved and he would leave me i would crave sex and so i would cheat on him ! ahhh it sucked so freakin bad . it was hard for him to understand and at times he would tell me i was acting like a whore but in reality it was just my addiction!!! there all types of addictions serious not just to drugs and alchol. you can be addicted to just about anything and everything but the top three from my experience are drugs alchol and sex !! they way i dealt with it was i just told myself that i wouldnt have sex for a month or two to get it out of my system then after wards i just played like i didnt want it which sort of tricked myself into thinking i really didnt. :) hope this helps

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  • Laura, posted 1 year ago

    I actually no what your going through in a way. I started havin sex just before i was 16 and i loved everything about it. I now am not having sex with him anymore and i miss it like mad, i have even planned to have sex with his cousin, im not the kindda person to sleep around but i need sex so bad. im sexually frustrated at the age of 16 its not right haaaa if you think he feels the same tell him but if you no he doesnt dont as i no what guys are like, he'll probably play at it to his advantage good look be safe and enjoy sex xx

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  • kirsten, posted 1 year ago

    if you are in love with this guy i would just tell him and c wot happens

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  • mik, posted 1 year ago

    have sex

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