'My rapist father is still in touch with my little sister'
16 years ago my mum left my real father because he was abusive and violent towards her. Last year I and my younger sister decided it was time to look for dad. Mum said she wasn't happy about it but would be there for us when it all went wrong which she knew was to happen.
It didn't take long to find him. Dad was controlling. He didn't like my boyfriend and made sure we weren't together long. After a while I moved in with dad and his girlfriend and her two daughters. Dad was dealing in drugs and one night when we were alone he sat me down and told me he would either be going to prison or running away. We ended up having a drink and dad raped me.
I told my mum and sister about the rape and they wanted me to go to the police but he is a dangerous man and I was too scared. A few months later I got a call from his girlfriend telling me he was in jail [for dealing drugs]. She told me that he had also groomed her eldest daughter and a few other girls.
I have just found out that my little sister is still in contact with our dad and he has just been released from prison. I don't want to upset my family by not speaking to my little sister but I feel she should be sticking by me and not by her rapist father. I don't know what to do. Hoping you can help.
Donna
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abby, about 1 year
I think that you can only tell her what happend to you and hope that she can understand how you feel. But let her know if she needs some one to talk about any thing that you will always be there for her.
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Sarah-Jane, 11 months
I think that the best thing you can do is tell your sister; talk to her about the emotional impact the rape had on your life, tell her how it felt to know that after everything you went through, you found out that your sister was more interested in talking to a rapist than standing by her sister. Surely if you mean anything to her she will realise the silliness of her actions and she’ll rethink the whole getting-to-know-daddy thing. I would assume that when your sister realises how upset you are by her blatant disregard for your feelings she would sort herself out and stand by the person that means most. After all, who has been there for her longest: her rapist father or her victimised sister? On top of all of that; THE MAN IS A DRUG DEALER. Association with someone like that (no offence, but druggies make me sick—that’s my opinion, as I have never met one that was anything less than one of THE rudest people on the earth) can only be bad… the man makes money supplying people with the substances that will eventually kill them. I would hate to think I was any affiliation to someone like that. If my brother was I would go MENTAL… but that’s just me.
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