'My husband's sending messages to other women'

susan, 5 months

well i have had my partner of 17 yrs do this also. he done it 2yrs ago and was txting this girl for a year till i found out and in the texts he was trying to be someone else gave her false name nothing about me or our kids but i gave him another go more fool me as out of the blue i found out last week he was doing it again only this time it was to 2 girls at the same time and on a second fone that i new nothing about but when asked why he done this he said he was stupid and they mean nothing to him but i have since thrown him out of our family home and i'm picking up the pieces with our children cause i feel i'm been a fool long enough and he is not going to change no matter how much i hope and it's not fair so just be careful is all i would say

clara, 6 months

Do you know what!!! Once a cheat always a cheat!! If its by text, phone, facebook or whatever they are cheating. My ex boyfriend told me it was because I was pushing him away. Funny that. It always seems to be the womans fault!!

anon, 10 months

are u getting help with the depression.does he understand how u feel? it may be hard for him. i have bad moods when me and husband argued some quite violent but never got help with it. well a few months ago i found some texts on husbands phone to a girl he worked with. we have had a bad few months where we werent getting on. i questioned him, then he said he didnt love me anymore. he left me in the new year and since then i have found out he texted this girl all the time at the end of last year. and now i think he is seeing her. but keeping it a secret as we have an 1mth old. if he says he still loves u try and get the spark back in2 the relationship. good luck

Lisa Johnson, 11 months

I'm just gonna say that I never respond to these things but I am now for some reason. I love my husband an he loves me but he has cheated on me numerous times. One of the ways I found out was text messages just like the ones you found. He has even had an ongoing relationship for like two years with a much younger girl that I work with. It hurt so much to find out these things and I guess the only reason I am saying this is as a warning to you. I will never forgive my husband fully but I might be able to let it go and we will see if he can change, who knows. Just keep your eyes open and protect yourself cause my experience has been that no one else will do that for you. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.

Shannon, 11 months

I feel your hurt, I had a similar experience with my partner on the computer. He had just joined facebook and was getting back in touch with some old school friends, one happened to be an old school girlfriend. He had talked before about this girl so when I questioned was this the same girl as in his stories he denied it and made up a name of someone that I was getting confused with..this made me suspicious and I started snooping, to my horror I found him giving his mobile number to her and telling her in one message that she still looked hot and to stay sexy. This may seem stupid to others and nothing, but you instantly think "affair". I found out it was not the affair I was thinking it to be and he stopped all contact and confessed it was stupid and just reminiscing on old times, but I agree that sometimes its the words more than the physical actions that can hurt the most. I still have certain trust issues and this was almost 1 year ago, and to be honest I still snoop, I dont find anything, but it allows me some assurance other than him just saying he is not doing anything. I cant say how long this will last for you, as you can see I still am yet to fully let it go, but if you love him and want for the relationship to continue I have found this to work. I dont know if he knows I still am checking up on him as we dont talk about it - its not worth the argument - but peace of mind will eventually relieve the heart and bring the trust back.....as long as there are no more messages. Good luck!!