'My love rat bishop'

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older woman, upset_rex
I'm 51 and have a history of depression. Eight years ago it got so bad I was taken into hospital. While I was there I met a bishop who was very friendly, supportive and caring towards me when I needed someone.

After a while, he told me that he wanted me and was madly in love with me, but he was married. When I refused to see a married man, he insisted that he wanted to leave the church and his wife to be with me properly. He proposed to me and we got engaged. We became lovers.

I made it clear that I hated the lying and sneaking around but he kept reassuring me that it was only while he sorted things out. I gave him the chance to change his mind and end our relationship, but he wouldn't. He insisted that he must be with me and wouldn't be happy until he was.

When the time came for him to move in he asked to borrow some money, which I lent him. Weeks later, when he should've been moving in, he said that he couldn't bring himself to leave, as God has told him he must stay and serve him.

I was devasted and felt I could never trust a man again. He insisted he loved me very much and wanted to still see me. I tried for a while but as time went on he let me down more and more and I had to end our eight-year relationship knowing my depression would return. I don't know how to rebuild my life - can anybody help?


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I am sorry you are having such a hard time at the moment, but honestly love you are much better without him. If he hasn't left his wife now, he never will. I think your relationship is just convenient for him and wouldn't be surprised if you are not the only mistress he has. He is a lying snake and will never change. My mother spent twelve years in a similar situation to yourself and when the B****** eventually left his wife, he left my mother also for another woman. She was just a convenient bit on the side. Having low self esteem from being in an abusive relationship with my father, this man(like yours) could see this weakness and preyed on her. I recommend you spend sometime getting to know yourself and deal with this depression before it comes back. Get a hobby, meet some new friends, go on a holiday, there is so much of a life out there to live, go and grab it by the gonad's!


It sounds to me this man wants the best of both worlds. He is a very selfish man, he met you in hospital while you were ill? and has let you hang on to a piece of string knowing you could get ill again. Letting go of somebody hurts but if he cant do the one thing you want, dont waste your precious years. Hes having the best of both worlds, excitement from both sides. Obviously he is still sleeping with his wife, otherwise he would of left her - lets face it he doesnt love her or he wouldnt have cheated. The only person he loves is himself. Hope my advice is helpful and let me know how it goes, get out of there hun and dont let him make you go in a depression let him make you stronger!! xxx


He sounds like he used to and you can do a lot beter why dont u get your own back and get one of ur m8s to make him jelous always works x hope your ok x

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