Sexplanations: 'I'm ashamed of our drunken sex'

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Every week we partner with our sister magazine, Woman, to bring you expert sexual health advice from Christine Webber, a qualified psychotherapist with her own Harley Street practice.

The problem

At a party recently, we all got drunk and I found myself in a bedroom with an attractive neighbour. We started kissing and he penetrated me. Then we were disturbed and he left. I'm scared I may be pregnant or have an STI, as I've discovered he's a womaniser. I got divorced recently and I've never done anything like this before. I feel ashamed.

The solution

Don't be so hard on yourself. Most of us have had unwise sexual encounters at some time, especially when we've had too much to drink. You tell me you're recently divorced, so your confidence has been knocked - you've been through a lot of emotional turmoil. Hardly surprising that you snogged your dishy neighbour.

But he didn't behave very well, did he? Has he never heard of foreplay? He sounds like a guy in a hurry who just wanted a quick thrill. Lucky for you that someone disturbed you both so early on in the proceedings.

Could you be pregnant, or infected? Hopefully not. But if your neighbour didn't wear a condom, unprotected sex is always risky. Although he probably didn't climax, he must have had an erection in order to penetrate you. So it's possible that he was already oozing a bit of pre-come fluid.

This liquid can contain sperm, and if it gets into the vagina it can make a woman pregnant even if the man doesn't come. So you may want to do a pregnancy test. Also, this bloke may be carrying a sexual disease - especially if he's a love rat who never practices safe sex. Some common diseases, like chlamydia, don't give the woman any symptoms in the early stages. I suggest you visit your local genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic. The doctors there are experts, and will sort you out.

Hopefully, everything will be fine - and you'll be able to forget this guy and move on.

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