We've teamed up with our sister magazine Woman's Own and their counsellor Emma Marlin to solve your relationship problems. This week she helps a woman who enjoys having no-strings sex but isn't sure if it's stopping her from finding true love.
Q I've been having sex on a casual basis with a man I met last year. Basically I call him up when I feel like sex, and he comes over if he can. It suits us both because we both didn't want to get into anything heavy. Recently a friend says it's stopping me from finding a real relationship. Is she right? I like sex but find relationships just too complicated given I have kids.
Your friend is right - your situation isn't great if you're looking for love. But your friend hasn't been listening to you. She hasn't heard that you're getting over a divorce, bringing up kids and don't have the time, interest, or room for a real relationship right now. If you had written saying your lover was your ex of nine years or coming out of a divorce himself, I'd be singing a different tune. But if this situation is working for you then why change it? You have nothing to be guilty about.