Loads of you have told us you're having trouble with your orgasms. Whether he's just not satisfying you or simply doesn't understand the female orgasm, we've got a failsafe 8 step guide guaranteed to help you orgasm again and again!
Trying to orgasm is often a woman’s biggest sexual frustration, it just doesn’t always come as easily as it does for men.
Rather than allowing it to frustrate you, there are plenty of things you can do to try and ensure you reach orgasm when you want to. First, it’s important to understand exactly what and orgasm is – our orgasm guide will give you all that information.
Then it’s time for action. This handy 8-step guide will have you achieving your orgasm in no time at all.
Step 1: By understanding your own body on your own, you’ll put less pressure on your partner and will be able to spend as long as you like experimenting. Once you understand what works for you, you’ll be able to communicate it better with your partner.
Around half of all women orgasm for the first time through masturbation. When practicing on yourself try not to rush straight to your clitoris. Take your time to explore other erogenous zones on the way and you’ll find new realms of pleasure that you didn’t know existed.
Half the fun of sex is thinking and talking about it, so, before heading straight to the sack, take time to wine, dine and chat to your man. Even going out for a meal or sitting in the cinema can be foreplay.
As well as being lots of fun and a great way to bond with your man, sex is also about escapism. So, it may help to completely switch off and indulge in a fantasy while your man is stimulating you. Imagining Brad Pitt’s tongue going to town on you is sure to get your pulse racing and edge you ever closer to the big ‘O’
Research shows that women who regularly do their Kegel exercises experience orgasms more easily, more frequently and more intensely. So this one sounds like no brainer to us! Find your muscles by stopping your pee mid-flow – these are your pelvic floor muscles.
To do your pelvic floor exercises simply squeeze those muscles as hard as you can and hold them. Do this three or four times a day.
There are certain sex positions perfect for female orgasm and being on top is a great for three reasons. Firstly, you’re in control so you can really make sure that you’re getting exactly the right angle to reach orgasm. Secondly, grinding against a man’s pubic bone will create clitoral stimulation and thirdly, if he also takes some time to caress your breasts, you’ll be ready to explode!
And if all that doesn’t get you going the look on your man’s face while he’s looking at your body is bound to get you over-excited.
One of the main benefits of doggy style is that you can use your sex toy or your hand to help you reach orgasm while your man thrusts away. It can also feel quite dirty and naughty to be taken from behind as well which adds to the erotic thrill.
The missionary position is definitely an oldie but a goodie. Not only is it a great way to be really intimate with your man because you can keep kissing and cuddling while he thrusts but you can also stimulate yourself with a sex toy or your own hand.
The best way to make sure you orgasm with your partner is to communicate before, during and after sex.