Every week we partner with our sister magazine, Woman, to bring you expert sexual health advice from Christine Webber, a qualified psychotherapist with her own Harley Street practice.
My best friend and her husband are getting divorced. She says it’s mostly because they haven’t had sex for two years. This has me worried! My husband and I have busy jobs, plus two teenagers to look after, so sex gets neglected. How can we revive it, as we still adore each other?
Wisely, you’ve reacted to your friend’s break-up by deciding to pep up your own sex life. When people are busy, it’s very easy for sex to be put on the back burner. But it can happen that one of the couple gets sexually attracted to someone else – and bang goes the marriage.
So you need to make time for intimacy. I know that may sound calculating, and spur-of-the-moment sex is better. But spontaneity isn’t working in your case, is it?
Maybe you could both finish work early on a certain day, so that you can have a midweek fixture! Weekends can also be a good time, particularly if your teenagers are out with their friends.
If you know sex is on the menu, you can get in the mood during the day. You could start ‘sex-days’ by giving your man a kiss before work, whispering: ‘There’ll be more of that later!’
I also urge you to go out on a weekly ‘date’. This keeps the romance going, even if you just go to the cinema or pub.
As for the bedroom, vary your routine. If you normally do the missionary position, get on top. Give yourself an orgasm while he watches – this usually drives men wild. Or treat him to a strip tease!
Take it in turns to decide what form your sex sessions will take. Watch an erotic film together, or ask your man to write a really sexy story and read it to you in bed.
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Finally, go for a weekend away once in a while – without the kids. This should give your lust levels a boost, as most women feel sexier on holiday!
– There’s more advice from Christine in this week’s bigger better WOMAN, on sale every Tuesday.