A bride is facing backlash after she sent a note with her wedding invitations requesting that all breastfeeding mums feed their baby in the toilets.
We can understand that brides may not want kids at their wedding and requesting an adults only affair is widely accepted nowadays, but asking your guests who are nursing mothers to feed their babies outside toiled stalls is not.
A snap of the invite and the request was posted on the Breastfeeding Mama Talk Facebook page and has not only caused outrage but has also gone viral.
‘To all our mommies who are breastfeeding,’ the note reads. ‘We are sensitive to the fact that you may have to breastfeed during our event, therefore we have designated an appropriate place for you to feed your baby so you do not have to so in public in front of our family and friends.’
The bride goes on to write: ‘For your convenience we are accommodating you with a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room. We request that you use this area when you are breastfeeding. Thank you.’
The anonymous poster of the request – who herself is a mum of a two-year-old and a three-month-old – was asking for advice from fellow mums on how to approach the situation before she attended the big day.
She explained that she is the wife of the best man but how this isn’t the first time the family has had a difference of opinion over her feeding her baby.
‘We have had several arguments over “my” breastfeeding ways and they have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in “private!”‘
She goes on to say that her and her husband were going to leave the two children with a friend and treat the whole thing as a ‘date night’.
But apparently that wasn’t okay either, the mum continued: ‘So, I said would just bring my littlest baby to the wedding then, but no way in hell I will leave and nurse her in the bathroom (no matter how “nice” they make it!).’
‘I don’t eat in the bathroom I’m not feeding my child in there!… I want to be “nice” as possible but what should I do!?’
The post had over 500 comments with some supportive suggestions. ‘I don’t understand who could be THAT uncomfortable with breastfeeding to actually send this out with wedding invites. I would bring my baby and nurse during the ceremony just to spite them. 🤷🏼♀️’ said one Facebook follower.
Another made a very valid observation: ‘I would never nurse in those chairs! Not even arm rests… obviously these people don’t know what comfort is…’ whilst a third commented: ‘I would just stay home. If they can’t respect your choice as a parent (and your right) then they don’t deserve to be graced by your presence.’
‘This is so sad. They try and make themselves feel like the good guys by making an “accommodation” but it’s still forcing someone to eat while others are relieving themselves only feet away,’ another agreed.
One mother following the thread admitted that while she doesn’t nurse in public through ‘personal choice’ she would this time just to make a point: ‘I usually don’t nurse In public by personal choice but if I received this I would just for principle. This made me mad just reading it. No one should tell you what to do with YOUR child. If it was me I would probably go just to make a point. Lol’
According to updates in the comments section, the woman ended up leaving her kids with a friend and a grandparent to attend the wedding.
What do you think? Is the bride in the right or massively in the wrong? Let us know in the comments box below.