A woman has hit back at her daughter’s school’s clothing policies after the 13-year-old was ‘dress coded’ two days in a row.
Mum Catherine Pearlman took to Instagram to share a picture of her child in one of the offending outfits, writing alongside: ‘My girl was dress coded two days in a row. It’s impossible to find shorts that are remotely fashionable and below her finger tips. She’s tall with long arms and fingers.’
‘One more code and she will have detention. And making the policy even more frustrating is that there isn’t a dress code for high school.’
Catherine, the founder of parenting guide The Family Coach, was so furious about the reprimands that she later penned an open letter for Today on the situation, inviting the school principal to take her daughter shopping to see if they could find something more suitable.
‘Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional thank you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god knows who and potentially never washed,’ she said in the piece.
‘To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.’
She went on to explain that her child is 5’7″, and ‘built more like her father’, with long arms and legs.
‘She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly. She won’t wear pants because she gets overheated easily. Trust me I’ve seen this. It will cause a scene in the school yard. She absolutely will not wear a dress either.’
Adding that the school rules mean that she cannot wear tank tops, and that ‘shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips’, something which Catherine refers to as a ‘toughie’, she then implores the teacher to find a solution.
‘She has very long fingers which seems to make finding shorts that won’t get her sent to the principal’s office impossible (On the bright side the piano teacher says those fingers are an asset). I’d schedule a few afternoons and weekends for this endeavor. I can tell you from experience that just heading to the mall, Target and the outlets won’t cut it. Not much for her there. I’ve already checked.’
‘One last point: please try to stay within a reasonable budget. We can’t spend a fortune on her wardrobe. She is still growing after all.’
The letter has received numerous comments from supportive – and equally frustrated – parents across the country, who have had similar problems with their own children.
‘Her shorts are right at her fingertips, this is an overreaction,’ one said. ‘I wish the administration and teachers would put their efforts into teaching, not shaming students because their shorts are closely violating the code.’
‘Good for you mama!’ a second exclaimed. ‘And maybe they can check with the clothing designers who make girls’ shorts shorter than boys of the same age
‘I remember the days when our dress code stated that we (girls) couldn’t wear pants to school. We know how that turned out,’ another agreed. ‘It’s time for your daughter and friends to strike. It worked for us.’