A mum has vented her anger after being left furious at her mother-in-law for holding her newborn daughter before she got the chance to.
Explaining how she was still receiving stitches after having to undergo an emergency C-section, the mum took to Mumsnet to reveal how the child’s grandma – a doctor working for the same trust – used her access pass to sneak onto the ward to see the child.
Despite giving birth to her daughter six weeks ago, the mum admitted she has only just started to process what happened due to it being a ‘traumatic birth.’
She said: ‘I wasn’t asked if it was okay if she could be there, and because I was being stitched up on theatre still, she held my DD (darling daughter) before I even got to.
‘I’m so angry and upset about this.
‘Prior to going into labour, I’d discussed with DH (dear husband) that I didn’t want anyone visiting for at least a day or so, let alone have MIL (mother-in-law) there before I’d even held my own child.’
She added: ‘I’m livid that the midwives allowed her to be there without asking me and I’m angry that DH didn’t advocate for me more too.
‘He should have told her not to come, or to wait outside.
‘I’m actually in tears this morning thinking about it all again and I’m so angry and upset still.’
Many other mums were in agreement that the mother-in-law stepped well above her boundaries.
One said: ‘I’d be livid. What a violation.’
Another added: ‘You are completely justified in feeling violated and angry. You’re also justified in feeling unsupported and let down by your husband.’
A third said: ‘The father could have held the baby! You need to tell MIL what she did was not OK and you expect an apology.’
However, others rose to her defence claiming that the mother-in-law was simply doing her best to support her child.
One said: ‘Your MIL only did what her son asked her to. As a parent it seems natural she would support her child.’
A second added: ‘If my son ever phoned me in a state of distress, desperately needing my support, I would be there in a flash.’