An outraged mum has asked the internet for advice after by criticised by her own sister for not being the one to put her children to bed every night of the week.
The mum-of-two took to parenting forum Mumsnet to ask for their view on an argument she had had with her sister, after being criticized for letting her husband put their children on two nights of the week.
‘Please can you help me settle an argument with my sister. I have 2 children and work condensed hours. When I finish work I have the sole care of both children. I also spend both Saturday and Sunday with them,’ she explained.
‘AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to want to go out with friends one night per week (therefore missing their bedtime and leaving my husband to put the kids to bed).’
‘Our dad is also terminally ill so I also often miss another bedtime either picking him from the hospital or spending an evening with him without the distraction of the kids. Again my husband puts the children to bed.’
She went on to say: ‘My sister thinks I am being unreasonable to miss two bedtimes per week. That at age 4 and 6 the kids should have their mummy to do it and they need this to make them feel secure. I, on the other hand feel I need a bit of a life sometimes. Some regular grown up time away from them provides a much needed break.’
The frustrated mum ended the comment by saying that she has agreed with her sister to post the debate and will show her the answers from other users afterwards.
However, her sister might not be too pleased with the result. Other shocked mums flooded the comments section with their responses, calling the sister ‘crazy” and ‘unreasonable.’
‘I can’t fathom why she would think this is unfair’ wrote one user, while another added: ‘I think more women should be going and doing things (rather than spending every night with the children)’.
‘I think it’s HEALTHIER for children to have some variety. Plus it’s their dad doing bedtime not a stranger – perfectly OK and right,’ read another comment in support of the mum.
So, what do you think? Should mums have to be present for every bedtime, or do you agree that they need some much-deserved time off every week? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.