A mum has sparked a heated online debate after she admitted that she doesn’t want to buy her two daughters – aged one and three – presents at Christmas.
The Mumsnet user posted as CallMeMaybeee said her two children already have the ‘right amount’ of toys and she just can’t see how they will benefit from getting even more. The mum explained in the post how she has tried to make her children’s bedrooms ‘nice places to sleep’ with storage units to tidy toys away in at bedtime.
‘The truth is,’ she said, ‘I don’t like the idea of their bedrooms and our living room overflowing with toys. They are well entertained with what they already have.’
The mum-of-two went on to explain that she has had relatives contacting her already, asking what her children want for Christmas.
She admitted that her eldest will be devastated if she doesn’t get any toys from Santa, ‘so I’ll no doubt go through the motions.’
‘I’ve tried telling relatives not to buy any cumbersome toys but I get the feeling that’s going in one ear and out the other.’
The point of the post was to ask if she was being cruel, before she added: ‘Just to clarify, they do have plenty of toys. I just don’t want to have one of those houses where you can’t move.’
Parents on the Mumsnet thread were divided in their opinions, with some believing Christmas isn’t just about presents and others feeling the mum was being ‘joyless’.
One wrote: ‘It’s unreasonable to get them no toys I think, you could get things that get used up like craft kits, paints, stickers or baking sets,’ while another pulled no punches: ‘You are being unreasonable, please don’t ruin Christmas for your children. They don’t believe in the magic of it forever.’
A fellow mum commented: ‘I personally think Christmas is all about the toys for kids. There are a certain amount of years when your house will have a lot of toys, but it’s not forever. At 13 and nine, we have no toys downstairs now.’
However, many others agreed with the original poster and gave the mum other options of ways she could keep her kids happy at Christmas that doesn’t include toys.
‘Mine is nearly three and we are all putting in for a playhouse,’ one wrote.
Another commented: ‘I agree with you. I really don’t like any sort of clutter and to be honest how many toys will your children have that they will never use? My mum used to say that we had to make space for Christmas so a few weeks before we would go through our rooms and throw old toys away.’
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