Mum blogger’s post about social housing goes viral for all the right reasons

Family and lifestyle blogger Laura Rutherford has posted a passionate message on Instagram in an attempt to remove the stigma around social housing.

Laura Rutherford is mum to two boys and lives in London.

In one of her most recent posts she explained that the stigma surrounding social housing has always meant she keeps it quiet and rarely posts about it on her social media.

However, after a watching a film called Dispossession and thanks to posts from playwright and author Cash Carraway, Laura felt obliged to show that tenants in social housing come in all shapes and sizes and to open up the discussion.

With a following of over 14,000 people, Laura knew her message might help others speak out too.

Alongside a picture of the street she lives on in Notting Hill, London Laura wrote: ‘🙋🏼‍♀️I LIVE IN SOCIAL HOUSING🙋🏼‍♀️ Last night I watched a film called ‘Dispossession’ which is all about social housing and social cleansing. You’ll never really hear me talk on here about us being housing association tenants. There’s always been such a stigma attached to council houses and the ‘type’ of people that live in them.

‘Thanks to the Media over the years, people are quick to judge and assume that everyone that lives in social housing is either poor, a scrounger off the state, uneducated and lacking in aspirations. This couldn’t be further from the truth. My family home was a council house, where my siblings and I all grew up- a HAPPY HOME. It was a 3 bedroom maisonette, which my dad made into a 4 bed to accommodate us all in!’

🙋🏼‍♀️I LIVE IN SOCIAL HOUSING🙋🏼‍♀️ Last night I watched a film called ‘Dispossession’ which is all about social housing and social cleansing. You’ll never really hear me talk on here about us being housing association tenants. There’s always been such a stigma attached to council houses and the ‘type’ of people that live in them. Thanks to the Media over the years, people are quick to judge and assume that everyone that lives in social housing is either poor, a scrounger off the state, uneducated and lacking in aspirations. This couldn’t be further from the truth. My family home was a council house, where my siblings and I all grew up- a HAPPY HOME. It was a 3 bedroom maisonette, which my dad made into a 4 bed to accommodate us all in! When I turned 18years old, I was then in a position to be re-housed under the ‘child of tenant’ policy due to overcrowding at home. I’d hit the jackpot!..I was given a choice of where I wanted to live and given 3 refusals. The first studio flat I viewed had my name all over it, just next to Portobello Road, Notting Hill. It was perfect. My mum and dad’s house now occupied one less and when my sister @sleeplessinkensal turned 18, she was also allowed to be re-housed, so she moved into a studio flat around the corner from me! I’ve felt more comfortable owning up to how I got to live where I live. When I tell people we live in Notting Hill, the assumption is we’re rich! Yes we’re rich in LOVE but not in money. We now have a beautiful 2 bedroom flat which is home. In the past I’ve had to bite my tongue when people I’ve met have made comments like ‘it’s a lovely area you live in, but do you get trouble from the people in council blocks?’…I was embarrassed to say WE are council tenants! We may live in a converted house and not on an high rise estate, but we are no different. SOCIAL HOUSING IS A RIGHT, NOT A PRIVILEGE. we feel extremely privileged to live where we live

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When Laura turned 18 she was able to be re-housed and got a studio apartment on Portobello Road, Notting Hill. When her sister turned 18 she was given the same opportunity but Laura explains that her youngest sister was not as fortunate.

She explained: ‘Trust me, if anyone ‘deserved’ their own flat, it was my younger sister @ac.christoforou . She became a parent at 18, then welcomed her second child into the world when she was 20, only to find herself as a single parent by the time she was 21. There were no longer any more re-housing options for our family. Lulu and I had the only opportunities. Abby went through what no young woman would ever want to face, and she found herself back in the home we all grew up in, with two babies.’

Detailing her decision to post this message Laura wrote: ‘It’s thanks to @cashcarraway who talks so openly about politics and social housing (she has a great story) that I’ve felt more comfortable owning up to how I got to live where I live. When I tell people we live in Notting Hill, the assumption is we’re rich! Yes we’re rich in LOVE but not in money. We now have a beautiful 2 bedroom flat which is home.

‘In the past I’ve had to bite my tongue when people I’ve met have made comments like ‘it’s a lovely area you live in, but do you get trouble from the people in council blocks?’…I was embarrassed to say WE are council tenants! We may live in a converted house and not on an high rise estate, but we are no different. SOCIAL HOUSING IS A RIGHT, NOT A PRIVILEGE. Don’t get me wrong, we feel extremely privileged to live where we do, especially with millions of people these days on waiting lists or homeless.’

Although Laura is thankful to be housed in affordable accommodation she says she never takes it for granted. Now married she explains that despite earning a decent income her family are in no position to buy a home in the area they live and yet this is her home. It’s where her community is and where her childhood memories were made. Why should she be forced to relocate?

Finishing her post Laura wrote: ‘There was once a time when I didn’t feel comfortable owning up to living on social housing, because I’ve always felt it’s a topic that’s been utterly stigmatised. But thanks to @cashcarraway (who you should follow by the way) I feel like I have more of a voice. If you get a chance to watch that film on Amazon (only 99p to rent) then please do. It’s enlightening. Put your hands up if you live in SOCIAL HOUSING?🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️’.

You can really count on friends to give you a little pick-me-up and today I got the ultimate mummy treat (gifted). Thanks to @cj_brough and @mrsfroggyfletcher I had a luxury hair appointment at the glamorous @caroljoylondon salon in none other than @thedorchester hotel this afternoon where I got my colour done and a little trim all in perfect timing for our holidays. Tye worked all weekend so I had my #smileystanley in tow and he was an absolute STAR! Granted it’s not really the kind of place you take a scrappy child, who I sat down with snacks and colouring only for him to spend the entire time singing out loud and talking to himself in the mirror🤣🤪 We stood out like a sore thumb, walking into the hotel all disheveled from the rain in our rain macs, carrying a Primark bag🤦🏼‍♀️ however this salon (in the spa) hit the spot. Gentle background music (no, not Stanley🙄), luxury products, intimate atmosphere and so sooooo relaxing. So much so I drifted off a couple of times while my foils were being put in!! Thank you to friends that just ‘know’. Sometimes you feel as though you give and give and give and nothing comes back your way. I don’t do nice things to get something back…I do them because I like to. So when you know others like to do the same it makes you warm inside. Today was just perfect 💗 . #mamatime #caroljoylondon #spoiltrotten #instamum #mumbloggeruk #blogger #metime #blessed #friendshipismagic #motherofboys #beingmum #londonmum #thedorchester

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Laura’s post has already quickly amassed nearly 1,000 likes and hundreds of comments.

One person wrote: ‘Thanks for posting this, I grew up in a housing association house and I’ll never forget that. I hate the stigma that surrounds it, I’ve had so many conversations with people uneducated in the matter. Xx’.

Another added: ‘Great post/comments and a good lesson in not making assumptions. 👏🏼’.

TV presenter Cherry Healey commented: ‘Love this post and the reminder never to assume anything – just take people as they are and respect whatever their circumstances – mine have changed so dramatically over the last 15 years in so many ways but I’m the same person regardless – beautiful words xxxx’.

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