A mum-to-be has sparked a huge online debate after revealing she no longer ‘trusts’ her husband after he shared their pregnancy news before her 12 week scan.
Taking to parenting forum Mumsnet, the pregnant woman asked if she is being unreasonable towards her husband, before lambasting him for ‘disrespecting’ her wishes to keep their baby news quiet until after their first scan.
She explained: ‘I am 11 wks pregnant and have my first scan next week. DH (Darling Husband) and I agreed not to tell anyone before the scan and I have been really stressing about anyone finding out!
‘Last night DH went out with a friend and told him that I am pregnant! AIBU to think I can’t trust someone if they can’t trust themself?
‘I feel completely undermined! I can’t see what consequences DH will suffer or what I can do! He’s just going to get away with disrespecting my wishes!’
But while many parents admitted they understood her annoyance, they also advised that her husband shouldn’t be begrudged for wanting to share their happy news.
One said: ‘You can choose not to tell anyone, that is entirely your choice but as this baby is as much your husband’s as yours he is perfectly entitled to tell whoever he likes.’
Another added: ‘You’re less than 12 weeks so completely understand. Your husband was likely bursting with excitement… and had to tell someone… it’s his news too’.
While a third said: ‘I would be cross if my DH blurted it out to someone when we hadn’t told family or close friends… but I wouldn’t be devastated. Don’t forget this is his baby too, and having him involved/excited is a blessing’.
However, the mum-to-be appeared to lose any sympathy for her situation when she updated her post to reveal that she is now planning to keep potential baby names a secret from her husband.
She added: ‘I feel like I no longer trust him and if we discuss names before the birth he will go telling people them as well! I feel like the only way round it is to not discuss names until after the birth.’
One outraged parent commented: ‘Your update sounds a bit deranged. You won’t confirm your choice of his child’s name until he/she has arrived in case he tells someone? Seriously?! Do you control his thoughts and deeds in other ways?’
Another said: ‘Withholding the special moments talk about names for the next 7 months by way of punishment for his crime is f****** ridiculous. Calm down and get some perspective, you have a long pregnancy ahead of you… pick your battles and save your emotional outbursts for a time when you really need them..’
While another tried to balance the situation by saying: ‘Congrats to the father, sounds a great loving man.’
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