When you get married there are a lot of worries that come along with the wedding day.
But one bride-to-be, named Shannon, is facing a dilemma that most people won’t ever have considered.
She’s torn as to whether to change her surname or not, as her husband-to-be’s surname is the same as her first.
So if she changes her surname when she gets married, she’ll be called Shannon Shannon
The prospective bride posted on wedding forum Wedding Bee seeking advice on her unique predicament.
Captioned ‘HELP!’, Shannon wrote: ‘My first name (Shannon) is my fiance’s last name. We have dated for 9 years and will be getting married next year, so I guess I need to finally face the decision of what I will do. Honestly it never bothered me even when people made jokes. His last name didn’t matter to me because I love him.
‘I am not sure if I want to change my last name or hyphenate or something else. My last name is longer than his, but it’s only two syllables, so it’s not too much of a mouthful. Others have suggested changing my first name or going by my middle name, but I couldn’t imagine being called by another name and I like my first name.
‘I would like to have the same last name as my future children, but I am not against keeping my last name. We don’t have any family or religious restrictions, so the choice is mine.
‘Has anyone else been in this situation? Also would love some thoughts on how to navigate this in the ceremony. Is it okay for them to announce my name then his followed by our last?’
Forum users flooded the post with useful advice, writing: ‘I know this isn’t traditional, but considering the circumstances, have you two considered your maiden name becoming the family name? My mom has a month name as her first and last name (not the same month, luckily!) but she has always hated being the butt end of jokes about it, and has said before she wished she had kept her maiden name. Mainly because people make so many comments on it. Would he be against changing his name?’ and ‘I know a couple that both the groom and bride got rid of their last names and took on a completely different last name when they married. Neither of them liked their last names so it wasn’t a tough decision for them.’
While others encouraged the bride-to-be to embrace the name: ‘I have a friend whose first name is the same as her married last name. Well her first name has an extra e. she introduced herself to me as (not real name) jaime jaime. But after that, besides being facebook friends with her, I don’t really use her last name. So besides her names being the same, it don’t see it being a problem socially. Maybe when you write your name down, people might say something but overall I don’t think you would get comments on a daily basis.’
And one had a rather amusing response: ‘Hey! This is your opportunity to become like Cher or Madonna…. just be Shannon! LOL’
Let’s hope Shannon manages to come up with a solution that suits her.