‘I can’t get over childhood abuse’

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  • This goodtoknow user was abused by her parents when she was younger, and is still struggling to rebuild her life. Now her father is spreading lies about her. What do you think she should do?

    My childhood was full of violence and abuse, my father would treat me like a piece of meat and my mother often left me on my own. I never had proper love and attention and I would starve myself and hope that someone would notice, but no one ever did.

    One Christmas they gave me a pencil for a present but gave my sister a typewriter. I remember I was so upset that I went out and snapped my pencil in half.

    Just when I thought that I was trapped for life I met Roger, who eventually became my husband. From the first moment my parents put pressure on me to finish with him, but I’m glad I didn’t because he’s the only person who’s ever showed me love.

    When I got pregnant with our first child, Emma, my father was so angry. I was still living at home and one day Roger came over to my parents house and they told him that he wouldn’t be allowed to see Emma when she was born.

    That’s when Roger got me out of their home and we got a place to live. My parents became so vile to me that I eventually broke all ties with them.

    As a result of this I am unable to go anywhere without my husband and I can’t answer the phone or the door. Roger has had to be a carer to me as I will not do anything without him or go anywhere alone.

    I was just about getting my life in order when my father told me that my mother was dying. I agonised about whether to go and see her, and plucked up the courage to go to the hospital. But when I arrived my sister told me to go away as my mother didn’t want to see me. I left the hospital in floods of tears.

    My father is now spreading around that he doesn’t know what he has done to deserve the treatment I am giving him, and I’m desperate to put the record straight.


    What do you think about this secret? What can she do to get over the abuse and stop her father telling lies about her?

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