Midlife crisis: ‘I suddenly felt old, fat and frumpy’

‘My daughter left home and a few weeks later a new manager arrived at the shop were I worked. She was 32, slim and fashionable. It sounds stupid, but I’d never had a boss who was younger than me and it really began to get me down.

I suddenly felt old, fat and frumpy, stuck in a job that bored me, and I desperately missed chatting with my daughter when I got home.

Things came to ahead when I blew £120 on a beautiful pale blue cashmere jumper hoping it would make me feel more confident at work.

My husband went mad at the price, but when I started crying and told him how miserable I felt, he was really shocked. We both realised we’d been neglecting each other.

With his encouragement I looked for another job. I’m now working at a local primary school as a teaching assistant and absolutely love it. Being with children all day is exhausting, but it makes me feel young again!’
Gillian Greenway, 49

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