‘My man’s become too fat for sex’

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. For the first 2-3 months, we had sex about four times a day. We did many exploratory and ‘dirty’ things together and he’s the only man I’ve had an orgasm with.

But, in the last two months he’s gained about twenty pounds and no matter what I cook to make him lose weight, he can’t and when I try and initiate sex he just says he doesn’t feel in the mood. I know it’s because he’s unhappy with his size but he won’t do anything about it.

I want him to exercise but he won’t get a gym membership, even after I suggested that we’d share it. I’m at my wits end. I need sex. I need him. He’s been drinking more lately and I think that’s why we can’t lose the weight but I don’t want to tell him to stop hanging out with his friends. I love him! I’ve even talked to him about this but he just shrugs it off.

I’m getting desperate but I can’t talk to anyone else about it because I’m too embarrassed. How can I get him to act?


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