Your guide to perfect oral sex

Oral sex is hugely pleasurable for both partners – so make sure you’re doing it right! Find out how to give and receive great oral sex with our guide.

Both men and women rank oral sex highly when it comes to what they enjoy most in the bedroom – and no wonder! Not only is oral sex great foreplay, but when done right it’s also one of the most intimate and mindblowing sexual acts you and your partner can enjoy.

If you feel a bit squeamish about the whole thing (whether it’s giving, or receiving), don’t be. Oral sex is a natural part of a healthy sex life and we’ve got lots of advice to help you make the most of it.

If you’re looking for a few pointers, need some help persuading your fella to be a bit more attentive or just want to check you’re doing everything correctly, read on for our guide to oral sex.

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Oral sex for women

If you want to get the most amazing oral sex and your man just isn’t up to scratch, then it’s time that you took the initiative and gave him a helping hand. Here are our top tips to getting the kind of treatment you deserve.

Tell him to slow down

Oral sex is great foreplay so get him to slow down and make the most of it! The mistake many men make is diving straight down to your genital area. If you tell him to build up slowly and kiss and lick other parts of your body first, then it will build anticipation and excitement. Point him in the direction of other parts of your body you enjoy being touched, such as your nipples, inner thighs, back, neck… whatever floats your boat.

Change your position

He doesn’t have to be kneeling between your legs to get the best results. One famous method of cunnilingus is called the Kivin method and involves the man kneeling at right angles to your body and with his head lying on your thigh.

Alternatively, why not get your man to lie down on the bed and you climb on top of him facing a wall, so you have something to hold onto/lean on. This means you can control the pressure, pull away if it’s too much or get closer if you want it harder.

Lick his hand

Most men don’t know the best way to use their tongue on you, so why not show him? Get hold of his hand and use your own tongue on his palm.

He’ll probably be surprised to see you use the flat of your tongue rather than the tip, which most men use and also how slowly you move it.

Direct him

If he’s in a position to be able to hear you, then make sure you tell your man what you want. Use clear, simple instructions like, ‘slower’, ‘harder’, ‘faster’.

Remember, though, he’s likely to not be able to hear you very well, so the way your body moves is even more important. Grind into him if you want to feel him harder or move away if it’s happening too quickly or is too rough.

Flick him the V

If he’s not really licking you in the right place, make a V sign with your fingers and show him where he should be putting his tongue. Position your fingers and get him to lick between them.